“The truth is, I think I’ve been trying to do too much too fast.
Ok, so here’s the thing. I dont think i’ve ever said that. Ive always said that Ive got a lot to do in the next year and its going to take me a while to get it done.
Well, it’s almost like you are trying too hard to say it. I mean, youve been saying things like “I dont think Ive ever said that” (and then you follow it with “Ive been saying things like that”). Its like you are saying it just because you want it to be the truth.
I think Ive been trying to do too much too fast. Ive been putting in the hours, working on projects, and trying to figure things out. Ive tried to go too fast, and now Ive got to slow it down so I can build up the energy and the focus to finish things.
Ive been trying to tell you that Ive been saying things like that because Ive always wanted it to be a compliment and it always has been a compliment and I know that you know that I know that you know that you know that I know that you know that I know that you know that it makes you feel good. It only makes me feel good because Ive been telling you how smart and mature I am.
A lot of people can’t tell the difference between a compliment and an insult. It’s true that most of us can’t tell the difference between “I love you” or “I hate you.” I can’t tell the difference between “Smart” and “Stupid” but I can tell you that when I say “I love you,” it doesn’t make me feel good.
Although being complimented by a person you know and like is a pretty powerful thing to have a person’s attention for, it is also pretty rare. Most of the time compliments are just a polite way of saying, “You made me feel better.
The thing is a lot of times people dont realize that a compliment is not a compliment. Theres a whole section on complimenting in the dictionary that goes into a bit more depth. I think most people assume that compliments have to be good for the person. There are some people who are very happy to receive a compliment but only if it is really good for them. I think we can all agree that being complimented by someone you love is something very special.
The problem is that compliments can sometimes be very over-the-top and come off as false. I am very fortunate to have a lot of people who adore me, and I know many of the people who don’t. Because of this I have learned to keep my compliments to a minimum.
I know this sounds counterintuitive, but I believe it is because our brains are very good at detecting the “over-the-top” part of compliments. We are not quite as good at detecting the “false” part or the “false” part of compliments.
